heartbreakers

Monday, January 31, 2011

What is a heartbreaker? It is one One that causes sorrow, grief, or disappointment. It is a person or thing that causes intense sadness or disappointment. A charming person who is irresponsible in emotional relationships. They do not show pity or compassion nor be apologetic automatically unless coerced.

Heartbreaks can be avoided but to heartbreakers it is a cowardly way to avoid confrontation. They underestimate the peaceful process of dialogue and communication. They don’t care what the other person will feel, and they don’t worry about the outcome it will cause. To them, it is only to accomplish their own satisfaction of selfish motive.

All my life, I try my best not to be a heartbreaker. I don’t like to cause pain to other people, much more sorrow or grief. I make it a point to talk to them and make sure everything is fine before moving on. Despite that, I have always been a victim of heartbreakers.

How do you get healed? Heartbreakers do not know that it takes long to heal. They just assume the victim will be fine, coz they do not know the feeling. They cannot imagine a heart that is broken because they don’t understand the heart. They only think with their mind. They have become a ruthless manipulator. 

The last time I had my heartbreak, it took me 8 months to fully be healed, and get closure. Sorrow and grief happening at the same time until it stopped. I also remember another heartbreak that lasted for years due to betrayal and anger dissipating only on the 5th year. Breaking trust is the most dangerous of all heartbreaks, it does not guarantee a reconciliation or another trust.

No positive mind can heal a wounded heart too easily. Heart is where the soul sits, and a wounded soul is like a fallen angel with a broken wing. It is different from a cut that bleeds and heals. Instead, in reality, Life slows down to recuperate and be healed but the scars will stay for a lifetime.

I am more mature and wise to think twice before causing any heartbreaks. It is our simple act of kindness that transcends our purpose to “Love thy neighbor as you love yourself.” God himself instructed as to love and not to break.