heartbreakers

What is a heartbreaker? It is one One that causes sorrow, grief, or disappointment. It is a person or thing that causes intense sadness or disappointment. A charming person who is irresponsible in emotional relationships. They do not show pity or compassion nor be apologetic automatically unless coerced.

Heartbreaks can be avoided but to heartbreakers it is a cowardly way to avoid confrontation. They underestimate the peaceful process of dialogue and communication. They don’t care what the other person will feel, and they don’t worry about the outcome it will cause. To them, it is only to accomplish their own satisfaction of selfish motive.

All my life, I try my best not to be a heartbreaker. I don’t like to cause pain to other people, much more sorrow or grief. I make it a point to talk to them and make sure everything is fine before moving on. Despite that, I have always been a victim of heartbreakers.

How do you get healed? Heartbreakers do not know that it takes long to heal. They just assume the victim will be fine, coz they do not know the feeling. They cannot imagine a heart that is broken because they don’t understand the heart. They only think with their mind. They have become a ruthless manipulator. 

The last time I had my heartbreak, it took me 8 months to fully be healed, and get closure. Sorrow and grief happening at the same time until it stopped. I also remember another heartbreak that lasted for years due to betrayal and anger dissipating only on the 5th year. Breaking trust is the most dangerous of all heartbreaks, it does not guarantee a reconciliation or another trust.

No positive mind can heal a wounded heart too easily. Heart is where the soul sits, and a wounded soul is like a fallen angel with a broken wing. It is different from a cut that bleeds and heals. Instead, in reality, Life slows down to recuperate and be healed but the scars will stay for a lifetime.

I am more mature and wise to think twice before causing any heartbreaks. It is our simple act of kindness that transcends our purpose to “Love thy neighbor as you love yourself.” God himself instructed as to love and not to break. 

being true to myself and my frustration

Writing helps me understand my thoughts. I don’t mind what other people think of me. What is important for now is that I am being true to myself. Later, I can go back and look at the past with confidence that I have lived life to the fullest. 

I wake up this morning with a lump in my throat. I can’t describe the feeling but it seems I’d rather pass time with bitter sweet memories. I am deeply affected and crying my heart out becomes ordinary. There were so many things I looked forward to before this turn of events. I relied on promises and prayers hopeful for the future that one day he will surprise me. Indeed, he SURPRISED me now! I saw many good things, My love being accomplished in his career, and I am being ready to join Europe. It would have taken 2011 and everything would be good. I see many beautiful images, imagined myself happy full of love with him laughing, walking, and making dreams come true. I was sure I would see my love again. But now, it’s like a letter washed away by the sea. I feel I have been robbed off something precious and forever lost. I cannot imagine myself yet doing something else. I can’t find the energy to make a genuine smile or even work. I feel sad, and just letting myself down like I don’t care.  

After what happened, I am forced to “reposition” myself and look at another future which is hard. I have not experienced something like this in the past. My previous affairs despite being in love were more focused on accomplishing my professional goals. This time around I dedicated my life and looked forward to a future with someone.

It is difficult to be led astray, and as I walk now, I wish the crossroads would be less. I know this is not unique to me, but I thought I was doing fine. I am mistaken. I should have listened more carefully and understand the signs. I should have loved myself more like he did himself. He could have made me ready to choose. He could have hold on and be stronger beyond the frustration. I wished we talked things through before he left for Kenya than left alone to rush in another decision. If I were wise and not love after knowing, I would have caused greater damage. 

It is just so weird now, many things are left unsaid, I am blue, nauseatic and I feel like I want to throw up. I think I am gonna be sick. Why do they always have to break my heart? I gave my best to them. I don’t want to count the days My Lord feeling this way. I am just angry that he changed his mind without telling me. I am sorry. I was not productive in my 4 years. I know I have failed you again one more time.

I am tired but still up

Dearest, 

The sudden turn of events caught me offguard. I did not expect the worst to come. I had hoped for the best. I am not ready.

Loving you was my greatest gift to you. In return, you hurt me like it was intentional. 

I may have some flaws in the relationship, but I thought you respect me more than that. 

I have gone to a point where I find myself looking at how it could have been different. 

The harsh words uttered and the whirlwind of emotions are merely to let u feel what you have caused me. 

I wish with all humility that you are sincere in making me feel better. 

That I still touch your heart and a tear drop in your eyes as we part our ways.

I longed for peace in the end and hopefully accept and remember that love was not a waste but was the start of something better.

I will make more of what I have now and better because I still believe in love.

I have loved you with all my heart and I will forever be grateful for the time we had. 

We helped each other grow over the years and we persevered despite the distance.

So, Good luck then and let all our wishes come true.

Let me not go on despair but be energized that all things will be better.

Good Bye my dearest and friend, I will miss everything.

THE TEN SECRETS OF ABUNDANT LOVE

Love begins with our thoughts. We become what we think about.

Loving thoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships.
Affirmations can change our beliefs and thoughts about ourselves
and others. If we want to love someone, we need to consider their
needs and desires. Thinking your ideal partner will help you recognize
her when you meet her.

The second secret: The power of RESPECT.

You cannot love anyone or anything unless you first respect them.
The first person you need to respect is yourself. To begin to gain
self-respect ask yourself, What do I respect about myself?
To gain respect for others, even those you may dislike, ask
yourself, What do I expect about myself?

The third secret: The power of GIVING.

If you want to receive love, all you have to do is give it!
The more love you give, the more you will receive.
To love is to give of yourself, freely and unconditionally.
Practice random acts of kindness.
Before committing to a relationship ask not what the other person
will be able to give you, but rather what will you be able to give
them. The secret formula of a happy, lifelong, loving relationship
is to always focus on what you can give instead of what you can
take.

The fourth secret: The power of FRIENDSHIP.

To find a true love, you must first find a true friend.
Love does not consist of gazing into each others eyes,
but rather looking outward together in the same
direction.
To love someone completely you must love them for who they are,
not what they look like. Friendship is the soil through which loves
seeds grow. If you want to bring love into relationship, you must
first bring relationship.

The fifth secret: The power of TOUCH.

Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love, breaking
down barriers and bonding relationships. Touch changes our
physical and emotional states and makes us more receptive
to love.

The sixth secret: The power of LETTING GO.

If you love something, let it free. If it comes back to you its yours,
if it doesn’t it never was. Even in a loving relationship, people need
their own space. If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to
forgive and let go of past hurts, and grievances.
Love means letting go of our fears, prejudices, egos and conditions.
Today I let go of all my fears, the past has no power over me -
today is the beginning of a new life.

The seventh secret: The power of COMMUNICATION.

When we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life changes.
To love someone is to communicate with them. Let the people you
love know that you love them and appreciate them.
Never be afraid to say those three main words: “I Love You”
Never let an opportunity pass to praise someone. Always leave
someone you love with a loving word it could be the last time
you see them. If you were about to die but could make telephone
calls to the people you loved, who would you call, what would you
say and…why are you waiting?

The eighth secret: The power of COMMITMENT.

If you want to love in abundance, you must be committed to it, and
that commitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions.
Commitment is the true test of love. If you want to have loving
relationship, you must committed to loving relationships. When
you are committed to someone or something, quitting never an
option. Commitment distinguishes fragile relationships from a
strong one.

The ninth secret: The power of PASSION.

Passion ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not
come through physical attraction alone, it comes from deep
commitment, enthusiasm, interest and excitement. Passion can
be recreated by recreating past experiences when you felt passionate.
Spontaneity and surprises produce passion. The essence of love and
happiness are the same; all we need to do is to live each day with
passion.

The tenth secret: The power of TRUST.

Trust is essential in all loving relationships.
Without it, one person becomes suspicious, anxious and fearful
and the other person feels trapped and emotionally suffocated.
You cannot love someone completely unless you trust them
completely. Acts as if your relationship with the person you
love will never end. One of the ways you can tell whether a person
is right for you is to ask yourself, Do I trust them completely and
unreservedly? If the answer is No, think carefully before making
a commitment.

LOVE IS

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